"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."~Buddha
One of the most intense emotions a human can feel is anger. It's like a boiling lava in a volcano waiting to explode. It varies from being a mild irritation to a fury. It also affects us psychologically and physiologically through palpitations, profuse sweating, our heartbeat and blood pressure shoot up and we are overwhelmed with great energy and hormones. I personally dread the feeling of anger seeping in my system because I am scared that I may just lose it and throw away a big, violent fit. You see, when we are angry, our judgment is impaired and we have clouded perspective on some matters; thus making us vulnerable to make matters worse and eventually, may even cause hurt to ourselves and our family and friends.
We all can cope effectively when we feel angry and here are some ways to cope:
1. Do some relaxation techniques like breathing in and out, yoga, meditation and focused visualisation.
2. Try to remove yourself from the physical environment if "mentally"removing yourself is not achievable. Go for a walk for a while. Go to the other room or run up and down the stairs. I always go to the loo and heave in and out to release the pent up emotion. It has worked for me every time I feel angry or upset.
3. Acknowledge the feeling. I know I am only human and I am capable to feel such intense emotion but to acknowledge the feeling is also a part of giving oneself a chance to grow and realize it's destructive nature. Knowing all these, I am prepared to tackle the emotion fair and square. I know this will pose a big challenge because when we are angry, we don't listen to reason. However, knowing that you are angry can put you in a different perspective. This way, you can curtail the various untoward reaction of being angry like being verbally abusive, and sometimes can cross the line to physical manifestations.
4. Pray. Praying has helped me control my anger many times in my life. I ask for divine guidance when I am lost at moments of anger. I humble myself before Him and ask for understanding, patience and peace.
"Lord Jesus, there is anger in my heart and I cannot root it out.
I know that I should calm down and offer the hurt and disappointment to You
but my emotion is running away with me.
Help me to overcome this weakness and give me peace of heart as well as mind.
Let me learn from this experience and grow into a better human being . Amen. "